Discover The Truth About Twin Flame Stages And The Energetics of the Twin Flame Journey, Why “Runner/Chaser” Delays Or Separation Are Not Something You Have To Suffer Through, and How Healing Is The Crux Of Reunion…
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Hi, I’m Cassady Cayne, and welcome to Twin Flames 11:11!
Let’s explore the real stages of the Twin Flame journey, based on energetic alignment — not fixed timelines or suffering.
I’ve been on this journey myself and have been a Twin Flame guide for close to 10 years now, helping thousands of Twin Flames from all over the planet.
I know how confusing it can feel — especially when you hear the same outdated myths about Twin Flame stages that are everywhere online.
But I want to share what I’ve learned from my own experience and the thousands of Twin Flames I’ve helped around the world:
Union is always possible — and it doesn’t have to take years.
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Why Most “Twin Flame Stage Lists” Keep You Stuck
You’ve probably seen the typical breakdown: meeting, honeymoon, separation, runner/chaser, reunion.
But here’s what most people don’t realize:
– These “stages” were created from ego ideas, not soul truth
– They often reinforce fear, powerlessness, and waiting
– They label pain as something sacred, rather than a sign of misalignment
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In my work, I don’t teach about “not chasing” or “surrendering” to wait in silence (because those will not heal the underlying triggers that CAUSE separation or running).
I teach about energy.
Because when you clear the wounds, blocks, and karmic baggage keeping you and your counterpart apart — the journey changes!
This is when you reunite.
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Jenny’s Story: 20 Years Waiting For Separation To End — Until She Changed Her Energy
Jenny had been in separation from her Twin Flame for two decades. She had followed all the advice she found online — don’t reach out, don’t chase, just “let it happen.”
But her soul kept whispering something different. When she found my work, she realized she’d been silencing her intuition in order to follow ego-based “rules.”
She began clearing the energy of fear, rejection, and unworthiness. She stopped waiting and started aligning.
And when she finally reached out — from a place of love, not fear — something incredible happened.
Her Twin Flame replied immediately. He said he had been thinking of her all those years, and had hoped she would contact him. They’re now in contact again, rebuilding their connection from a place of truth.
Separation ended when she aligned with love — not when she gave up her power to waiting and others’ opinions.
(Here is Jenny’s post, so you know it’s real!)
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The Real Stages of the Twin Flame Journey
These stages aren’t mandatory — they’re common patterns, but they’re fluid and they are NOT set in stone. They do not have to last a certain time, and with separation, running or chasing, they are caused by deeper wounds and triggers – not “meant to be”.
You can move through any delays quickly when you take action, go within and heal old wounds, insecurities and triggers, and align.
And yes, this works even if your counterpart is “ghosting” or not actively involved, because Twin Flames always share an energy field and any work one Twin Flame does to heal and lift into a higher vibration, impacts the other Twin Flame and the shared dynamic between them!
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The Truth About Twin Flame Stages:
Stage 1.) Soul Recognition, Activation
An instant, deep feeling that you’ve known them before. Often accompanied by energetic shifts, signs, or awakening symptoms.
What helps: Grounding, clearing old attachments, preparing your energy for alignment.
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Stage 2.) Purification Process/Ascension
This is the part of the journey when deep energies, old wounds and repressed material begins to surface between you due to your souls reconnecting. In short, anything that is NOT aligned with unity and your deeper frequency, will come up to be released.
It means you will start to notice unresolved wounds, fears, and karmic patterns showing up. This can be emotionally intense, but it’s not punishment — it’s purification.
It’s imperative in this phase to cleanse out the negatives that surface, as so many Twin Flames get stuck trying to “figure out” the experiences rather than knowing it’s meant to be purified out of their system in order to reunite.
What helps: Energy healing, inner child work, releasing ancestral and karmic baggage.
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Stage 3.) Choice Point/Evolution of Consciousness
The moment where fear, ego, or old beliefs try to hijack the connection. Many mistake this for “separation” or the “runner/chaser” stage — but it’s actually a mirror of internal division and old wounding. Your souls chose to experience this, in order to understand above all that someone is not their patterns or experiences – those are “layered” onto them.
In this “stage”, you may be asked to recognize that your counterpart is not a hurtful person – they may be expressing hurtful patterns and emotional wounds they have taken on in life! There is a big difference.
What helps: Tuning into your intuition, staying in alignment with love, not fear.
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Stage 4.) Alignment & Soul Growth
This is where deep transformation happens in embodying the soul level of the connection. You begin to open to more of your higher self’s presence, as there is less fear and lower content in your systems, and the energetic field between you and your Twin becomes clearer, calmer, and more magnetic.
Synchronicities and amazing “magic” often begins to show up in this phase.
What helps: Ongoing energy work, daily alignment practices, opening to allow in your divine templating.
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Stage 5.) Conscious Connection / Reunion
When both counterparts are energetically ready, they reach a state of unity consciousness and the Hieros Gamos “sacred marriage” on the soul planes.
This brings a reconnection, which can extend to the physical — sometimes it happens suddenly. This is not just about being together physically, but truly resonating in soul truth.
What helps: Staying heart-centered, communicating authentically, being truthful to your soul frequency (many Twin Flames delay this stage of union by trying to fit into the generic ideas of Twin Flames or adhering to societal standards for their gender, rather than authentically embodying their soul vibration – the Twin Flame soul song.)
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Clarifying the Term “Harmonious Union”
You may see online and in social media, Twins talking about reaching “harmonious union.”
Keep in mind that Union itself is harmonious by definition.
Oneness, soul-level alignment, and true union cannot exist in distortion or fear. If two people are together but in conflict, they’re NOT in union — they’re in relationship, possibly in karmic interplay, but not union.
This is why energy clearing and alignment is key. You don’t need to wait for years follow someone’s set timeline — but you do need to heal, align and return to your truth.
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You Can Shift the Journey Now
Union isn’t a reward for suffering. It’s a result of alignment.
If you’re in separation, know that it’s not permanent unless the energy that caused it remains unhealed. And if you’re waiting for your Twin to “awaken” — ask yourself if you’re listening to your own soul’s nudges.
I’ve created resources to support you on every step of the path, including articles on:
What Twin Flame Union Really Is →
Message for Twin Flames in Separation →
Why Twin Flames Run (And How to Heal It) →
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Ready to Accelerate Your Journey To Twin Flame Union?
You don’t have to do this alone. You don’t have to wait for years.
And you don’t have to suffer in silence.
Experience a FREE Twin Flame energy session here and take the 30-day Vibrational Alignment Challenge, where I give you all the info you need as a Twin Flame to reunite, including how to smoothly heal blocks, raise your frequency, and call in true union.
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→ Watch a video on what’s involved in the Vibrational Alignment Challenge here
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I really hope you found this guide to the (true) Twin Flame stages useful!
You really are here for a reason.
Make sure to listen to your intuition, as your soul and your Twin’s are always looking to guide you!
As always, I’m sending you so much love and light for your journey <3
Cassady x
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