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How My Childhood Of Hurt Helped Me Discover and Unlock the Secrets of Unconditional Love. Who’s Really Responsible for Your Pain – and What If Your Twin Flame Was Perfect For You All Along?

Today’s message is going deep yet again. For a while now, I’ve been guided to write this to you but I was unsure because I didn’t want to trigger sadness. But it’s kept showing up in various ways.

Now, I need your soul to be there with you while you’re reading. I’m talking to you, your earth self but I need your soul to be on your team today and open your heart to these words.

What if your Twin Flame is the perfect person to love you, exactly the way they are – but your expectations are skewed by cultural and societal perceptions? What if it’s just about lifting the veil to “see” it?

We grow up being fed beliefs and perceptions about what other people are supposed to be like. But for Twin Flames, the truth is we planned this together. Nothing is an accident. You and your Twin Soul pre-engineered yourselves before coming to earth. It’s why you’re so irresistible to each other.

We are, as sovereign souls awakening, being asked to learn to detach from the human stories of what women and men are “supposed” to be like.


Why The Hurts Had To Happen To You

I already hear some of you crying out but what about human decency? I do understand. I’m not saying to accept someone hurting you. But unlocking the surrounding perspective can really begin to transform your situation. If that’s the case for you, that your Twin has hurt you – please read this. It will help you understand and heal.

And make sure you begin using the Free Twin Flame Help Kit and the energy cleanse tool as it really has worked miracles for so many Twin Flames!

What if everything was meant to happen this way? What if the Universe was showing you care all along by leading you with prods here and there back to Love? What if your Twin Flame was loving you with their hurt?

What if YOU were the person controlling the whole show? What if any problems were engineered specifically by you and your Twin Soul in order to at some point prod you to action? To embrace your divinity? To take action and be the creators you came here to be?

What if every painful, hurtful, bad thing that ever happened to you was there because it was an instrumental part of making you the person you wanted to become? You, here now. You with the understanding. You with the experience of pain so you could know love. You with the wounds so you could help others heal…

When we begin to embrace the gift in suffering, we flip reality on its head. We begin to morph what we attract from others and from life.

My old pain and experiences are why I’m here with you today and why I’ve been the perfect person to help and guide Twin Flames through Ascension back to Love.

Why I Grew Up Believing Love Was A Lie

I believe I am here on this planet for love. Today, love is my reality.

But I grew up in a home with very little love, very little joy – not because my parents were terrible people, they were in the typical human pattern of doing things. Stress, struggle. And my father carried heavy baggage from growing up in a children’s home. He never spoke about it, but it had obvious effects.

The holiday season has often been a challenging time for me. Christmases growing up were filled with hope and excitement followed by disappointment as I desperately tried to make him happy to little avail – he had shut his heart a long time ago.

Handing him my handmade child gifts meant watching for the rest of the day as they sat unopened on the table. He had never wanted a child. I know now, it was because his own inner child was so badly hurt. He found it hard to even be around children, so he put up a wall.


The Moment Everything Changed

Because I didn’t know any different, I went on with my teenage years and early adult life thinking this was normal. That happiness was a lie. That love didn’t really exist. That life was hard and disappointment inevitable.

Not so many years ago I was struggling to find meaning in life. Depressed. I’d lost my job and was living in my parents attic. One night my Twin Soul appeared in a dream and activated my Heart Chakra with Unconditional Love – beginning this whole rollercoaster of a journey. Triggering me with love to awaken spiritually. To the truth.

I can barely describe to you the feeling, it was as if my heart had been lit up with pink love glowing as big as the Universe. I was home. Finally home. It felt as if everything was OK in the whole world, finally. It felt like nothing mattered except the feeling and us together. I woke up with the biggest smile on my face, wanting only to dream more and more with him.

It was only from that moment that I knew true love. I knew then, how empty life must be for others in comparison. Because that’s how I’d lived too. And I knew, if this was true love, what did that mean for everything I’d experienced with family, with friends…


The Journey Back To Love

If I could go back to myself three years ago at the birthing stages of Awakening, crying every day at the overwhelming emotions and turmoil going on inside me as the old baggage of ancestry and the past brewed like a storm to come up, I would have been dumbfounded to see myself here, now.

Complete transformation. Blissful love and lightness of being. Expansion and change beyond what I had ever imagined. I called out to the Universe for it, and I was answered beyond my wildest dreams.

As I followed the calling forth, through energy healing, metaphysics, intuitive studies, sacred ancient texts and deep psychology I learned how to unearth the light within and how to banish the shadows I had inherited and lived with since before I was old enough to walk.

With the tools I was guided to, my life began to transform, more and more. And I had so much baggage to deal with but I’ve gotten through it – it got easier and easier and my life began transforming around me the more I cleared.

I know that still, this is just the beginning. Now begins “real life” – life as an awakened soul, centered in love within myself and with my Twin soul in harmony.

I wish so much for you to experience the same. We are all here to love, always remember that. Center into love and you will discover life morphing into a more supportive, wonderful experience than you might have dared ever to hope for.


How Everything Is Unfolding For You

There are gifts in everything, no matter how hard. If I personally had never experienced an unloving home I would not be able to assist thousands of Twin Flames like this. With all the baggage I had from my upbringing, I understand.

You see, as souls we want to understand in a different way. I chose my upbringing for a reason and you know what?

My father, who was born out of wedlock in the 1940s, grew up in a children’s home and didn’t even know the truth about who his father was until he was 15 – discovering that his mother hadn’t just abandoned him, she’d lied to him all his life – then left everything he knew to become a sailor just to escape the past… He chose all of it.

And with what I know now, I am so proud. Brave souls choose to experience hurt. I am so grateful that this soul showed me why people live in hurt. That he was a guiding presence in my life, to help me learn. To help me understand why people shut their hearts to love.

Because as a soul I wanted to understand why human beings live in conflict, hurt, suffering. Not just in theory but in practice, real life living it skin flesh and bones. To be submerged in the human experience, to have that running through my veins as I was born blood and genes from his experience and all the other ancestors’ pain. So I chose him as my father, to grow up not feeling love.

So what in YOUR life might be preparing you for your “mission”, for your “real life”? What has happened to you which despite all the pain holds within it the seed of a beautiful adventure?

Because within any problem there is the seed of its solution. So many Twin Flames and Lightworkers are here as answers to prayers sent out by humanity. For more love. So to bring more love, many if not most engineered to experience the blocks to love as deeply as possible.


3 Vital Insights On the Twin Flame Journey Back To Love


#1) Everything is happening FOR YOU

If things are hard right now, it’s serving to light up blocks and negativity, showing what needs to be cleared and adjusted for you to align with love and live in love.

Any lesson is there to be a guiding point. I like to use the analogy of a plane flying. Did you know planes don’t go in a straight line?

They actually zig-zag. They fly for a while straight, then they correct course and fly in another direction. All the while centering on the path, the middle. But it’s always a zig-zag. Going too far, correcting course. And they always get to their destination.


#2) You Are Both Perfect

You are perfect for your Twin Flame and they are perfect for you. Feel into this. If your Twin Flame were less of who they are, would you be as drawn to them? Most likely not.

The traits you find deplorable, repulsive, negative – they are expressions of the human energy, hurt and baggage your Twin has taken on in life. Fear, lack, shame and so on.

It’s not the truth about your Twin Flame. It’s the baggage that’s coming up for a reason during Ascension. For you to clear it. Whatever work you do, benefits your twin too.

You created yourselves this way for a reason. You are irresistible to them. If there is separation between you right now there is fear involved. Always. This is the message from spirit. Separation is always grounded in unconscious fear. So clear the fear.

And if one of you are in an unfulfilling or controlling relationship with another, cord cutting is essential. (We go through cord cutting in all the energy sessions here, and in the full Vibrational Alignment Program).


#3) Unconditional Love is Your Greatest Power

Love your Twin from the inside out and they will blossom into the highest version of themselves. Maybe not overnight but it will happen.

When you connect with your twin in Unconditional Love, even if it’s in spirit and not in person – the two of you are transformed. Melting away resistance, fear, shame and all the lower energies. Helping you shift into love and harmony.

I was this week shown by spirit that my “mission” with the Twin Flame collective is at an end – my soul contract with the collective is completed – and that I have provided all the information, methods and assistance needed for the Twin collective to reunite in Love, through all the articles on the blog and the energy sessions.

I was shown that any work I do from this point on is my choice.

With all my love and deepest respect. I honor you as a soul of light. Don’t forget to honor yourself as well, you are so valuable, so loved.

Cassady x

Want more? To discover the methods that got my Twin Soul and I to Union within 18 months of our first encounter, have a look at the Vibrational Alignment Program for Twin Flames. You can also read about the amazing experiences other Twins have had with my methods.

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Alternatively you can try my Free Twin Flame Help Kit which contains energy clearings from the full program!

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  1. Oh my… Tears of gratitude, thank you Cassady for all your love and work you have done to us. I have felt it too, for a couple of weeks that your work is completed. You made a huge difference in the world and in our lives. I love you.

  2. Cassady as soon as I started reading this article I had shivers and goode bumps all over and still have. I agree with everything you say.
    Will you be stopping writing articles now that your mission is accomplished?
    Love and light to you. We are love. Xx

  3. Thank you, dear friend.

    I am happy to read that you feel free now to focus on your own splendid life, and be the master of it without feeling duty to others. I know you know, but I want to let you know that I fully support and deeply understand (in particular energetically) your decision. All materials, tools, insights, all is here for anybody to find the path to self empowerment and enlightenment, to go inside and find guidance there (including yours, btw ;), if they would like so). And anybody who is ready will find it, like so many did already.

    Your work helped me to remember who I really am, being part of all that is and then become the master of my life, my love and my being focused here and now. So, thank you. It was and is great fun.

    I love you, and I wish you a beautiful continuing journey and amazing life full with fun, love and joy.

    Big hug from the inside out. <3

  4. I thank you Cassady for highlighting a hidden block I thought I had already cleared. To be honest your last paragraph filled me with panic and fear of being abandoned by you and your divine messages. Ever since I was guided to this blog, I’ve wished your updates will never cease because it has led me to become the happiest I’ve ever been. I know that your messages are confirmation of things I already know in my soul, but your confirmations bring me more comfort than anything else. I am eternally grateful for you and this blog and I know I cannot be abandoned by spirit <3

  5. Cassady, can you share with me your feelings or guidance on doing cord cutting on your Twins behalf if they are the one in the controlling, unhealthy relationship?

    I sometimes get a bit confused about this part because of freewill interference etc.

    Thank you so much if you could share your thoughts. So many people struggle with this concern.

  6. Congratulations Cassady and thank you for all of your dedicated work. You have done a very thorough job and anyone visiting this site is invited to use their own strength of will and determination to find the answers for themselves within all of the pages of information. It’s exciting to imagine what you and your twin could be up to next!

  7. Hi Everyone thank you so much for your amazing comments and for being here! <3

    The way soul contracts work is that when they're finalized we have free will to take action as we choose. So Twin Flames 11:11 isn't quite closing down… I'm moving into some other related projects in 2017 which I'm very excited to share with you (including a book!) but there will still be content coming up on this site – I know that as human beings we sometimes need to read things from a different perspective.

    There's also a really exciting 2017 twin flame forecast coming for Free to everyone who's on the newsletter – if you haven't signed up already go ahead and do that because the forecast (a 20 page mini eBook with insights on the coming year) will be going out around the Holidays : )

    Sending you all love and light <3 x


  8. I have been on this journey for about three years with my actual twin flame and two prior to meeting her with my false twin…so in total five years for the entire process as of yet. wasnt until i found this blog that i was able to let go of a lot of my blockages and doubt…which still faintly comes and goes but i remain in my strength. …i will never forget when i sent an email and you directly responded validating my experience of which you mentioned you resonated a lot with. It hadnt occured to me that very rarely do you respond to personal messages, i took that as an even more concrete sign that i need to trust in myself amd have faith that all is well. I know in my heart i will reach union, and i would not have been able to if it were not for your blogs. Its an intense experience and to have someone with such wisdom and compassion be able to help guide and support others is a blessing. I am so grateful for you as i would still be feeling crazy otherwise. Tha nks so much for your time and energy put into helping others. <3

  9. Good for you, Cassady.

    2017 will be a great year for all of us. There are some interesting things on the horizon.

  10. WOW… You have been an amazing help to so many. It is as Claudius Aurelius says in his book of Meditations – And although Time stands still and we are the ones who move along side it, it has been an amazing part of my development that I had you in my life. So “Cassady Cayne”, I thank you for all that you have done and wish you and your beautiful twin Flame an amazing path along your journey together. We, as twin Flames, are never ever apart, it is so true.

    Marcus Aurelius Quote for you – Thank you. “Time is a sort of river of passing events, and strong is its current; no sooner is a thing brought to sight than it is swept by and another takes its place, and this too will be swept away.
    Marcus Aurelius

    What I mean from my part is to say thank you for helping US all develop further along towards re-union. Thank you for all your guidance and advice.
    Heartfelt Thank You to you Both. XX

  11. Thank you so much for everything, Cassady! You are a true and rare gift to this world, and it is because of you that I have found solid ground on my journey. You are the only one I have found to truly help twin flames lead with light; you’ve given us tools to use to heal, and for all of the things you’ve shared, I am so grateful to you. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

  12. Congrats for your mission completed! I’d like to ask: will the forums remain on this blog for people to share about the TF topic?

  13. /What if the twin has not connected with me since Oct 2016. That is has found another person that he claims is his true love. There have been women after women with him. He doesn’t believe that we are spiritually connected and doesn’t believe in this. i have no money except my SS that comes in every month. I have cried til i cannot cry anymore. Lonely, unsure and hurt to point of hurt that I don’t want to mention.

  14. Thank you Cassidy for all your work and wisdom! Me and my twin are in the separation runner phase, been almost 2 years , but I realized in the last year and to this day , I will forever love her with all my heart unconditionally without expectations! She is a part of me regardless if she is with me physically . Your statement of love words can’t describe, is exactly how I feel . I found true love , I am truly one of the lucky ones 🙂
    Thank you Cassidy
    Love and light 🙂

  15. Wow so weird because i felt the end of these article updates while i was reading the past couple articles lol! I get you i kinda feel that shift coming here and believe it or not i feel this shift feels xollextive, youre on to different things! And im so happy for you! I hope to real more jouneys about your twin astral journeys, perhaps in your book or books or anything ^-^

  16. Thanks Cassady. Through following your blog and paying close attention to signs from the angels (and taking photos to prove it wasn’t my imagination!), I was strong enough to take a huge step today. It was far less dramatic than I had feared. The angels are showing me triple numbers like crazy now.

  17. Thank you…so much. From the bottom of my heart. It’s funny how things end exactly when you’re ready to fly because I just began to feel a “completion” type of energy as if now it’s our turn to take charge because we have all the inner realizations that we need now to do it on our own. And it would have been so much harder without you. You’re always bang on. So thank you. I Love you?? You did it.

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