how do i get my twin flame to stop running

5 Things To Do Right Now To Bring Your Love Back and End The Cycle of Pain For Good. How To Heal Your Connection, No Matter What’s Happened Before…

First of all I want to yet again thank everyone who writes to me!

I’m so happy to hear about your wonderful experiences with energy tools and how my writing inspires you.

And for those who write asking for help I want you to know I appreciate you opening up like that – I know it can be tough.

I want you all to know I read all the emails I get but I’m unfortunately not able to respond personally to all the contact I get.

If you’re hurting right now, my best advice after encountering thousands of Twins to date – and having been through Ascension myself – is to begin working with your energy.

The Crux Of The Twin Flame Connection

Energy really is the crux of the Twin Flame connection: When your energies are aligned, you exist in harmony together.

When your energies are imbalanced, there are flare-ups of conflict, negativity and problems.

I’ve had Twin clients who’d been waiting 20 years for their Twin to stop running, to no avail – it wasn’t because the universe had deemed them unworthy of coming together or because there was something wrong with them.

It was simply because they weren’t in alignment with it. Their energy was blocked to it happening.

Download the Free Help Kit for Twin Flames right now to get going. Things really can change for the better for you, no matter what’s happened before.


The Fear Of Twin Flame Running

Twin Flame Running is probably the most feared part of this intense journey we’re on, and I’m asked about this all the time.

When I’ve done readings and coached other Twins, I encounter so many struggling with this infamous phenomenon – their Twin “running”.

Being someone who has a clear channel to spirit and each Twin’s soul when I’ve done readings, I have had a unique chance to get a direct look into the psychology and energy of so-called Twin Flame Running.

What You Fear, Comes Closer!?

One thing I keep seeing in Twin articles on the internet and which can seriously harm you and your journey, is the attitude that Twin Flame Running is somehow to be expected.

That it’s a “stage” of the journey and somehow necessary or a part of a “beautiful struggle” that makes us martyrs of love…

This is unfortunately a ***very damaging perception*** which can mess up your energy – because what we expect, we manifest.

Is It Helpful?! (Or Even True?)

I would like you to keep something in mind when you read articles about Twin Flames and get advice from intuitives:

“Is it empowering or disempowering?”
“Is it encouraging, or is it setting me up for problems?”

It’s come to my attention that a lot of Twin Flame articles and “teachings” out there are based in one particular book by one particular person, written decades ago.

I would be careful to accept info like that as true, just because it’s been repeated a lot!

Likewise, I encourage you to read this blog similarly – if something doesn’t resonate with you, it’s your choice whether to align with it or not.

No one’s journey is identical to someone else’s – it’s why I focus on sharing adaptable energy tools rather than giving you a set of “rules”.

Careful What You Accept As True

There are a lot of terrified Twin Flames out there. And a lot of Twin Flame experts and intuitives who unfortunately contribute to more fear and more struggles…

…By feeding into the fears of Running and Separation and feelings of helplessness in the face of divine decrees and outside forces of power.

Everything I’ve experienced both on my own journey and with clients points in the same direction – this can be EITHER a beautiful love story, or a tale of woe.

But it’s not written in stone either way. It’s a lot more up to YOU than you might think. Don’t let outsiders dictate to you what the journey “should” be like.

Twin Flame “Running” Is Not A “Set Stage”

The truth is Twin Flame Running is not a guaranteed thing. At all.

The Twin Flame journey is all about love, beneath it all. Any struggles are due to energetic imbalance. Triggering of old wounds.

You have the power to resurrect the love in your connection no matter what’s happened before. Please don’t buy into anyone’s ideas of stages that must happen in such and such a way, and that the Twin journey is a romantic rite of suffering.

It’s really not. No one except you dictate your journey and experiences.

It’s all about energy, and your energy is something you can shift and harmonize once you know how!


#1) Stop Focusing on Your Twin Flame as a “Runner”

Don’t talk about it, think about it, don’t expect it! By having it on a loop in your mind, you’re manifesting it, unfortunately.

You’re pushing it onto your Twin, reinforcing them to be and act like a “Runner”.

Twins impact each other a LOT with their focus and energy – more than others, because we’re two sides of one original consciousness. What you reinforce becomes more and more entrenched in your reality field and experiences.

Have you spent time thinking about your Twin Running and how awful it is or being afraid of it happening?

Unfortunately, this means you’ve been manifesting it.

Begin to steer your thoughts and words AWAY from it and begin instead to focus on what you would be happy to experience, and the things you love about your Twin.

You are a co-creator of your experience. Use this power responsibly. When you begin to look for the love in someone, you’ll be surprised at what they mirror back to you.

Have a look at what beliefs you carry around the Twin Flame connection and about women/men. Are you expecting Running? Fearing it? What we fear, we draw close to us.

The universe responds to what we send out – it doesn’t “understand” that we DON’T want our twin to run or to not get in an accident or what have you. It just registers that we keep sending out the signal of “running” or “accident”.

Fortunately, fear is just an energy pattern. A “recipe” we’ve downloaded into our being from someone somewhere.

Because fears are energy patterns, we can clear them using energy tools. This is a huge help in manifesting something new and positive instead.

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#2) Connect with Your Twin Flame on the Soul Planes

Life on earth is simply one part of the Twin Flame journey – there is so much going on behind the scenes on this path, in the realms of energy, the soul planes.

No matter what your Twin is going through in life and what their actions have been, their soul loves you eternally. Interacting with your Twin’s Soul and strengthening this bond between you, will help heal your Twin connection in “real life”.

Connecting in love with your Twin’s Soul helps them step into the eternal part of their consciousness – the part of them that knows who they really are and why the two of you “belong together”.

Strengthening and enjoying the soul bond in love will help them release any animosity and move them into a state of emotion and energy where they begin to be drawn to you again.

You CAN attract your Twin Flame, no matter where they’re at, by interacting with their soul and engaging with them that way.

This was something that shocked me in dozens of readings and coaching sessions with Twins whose counterpart was a Runner – that the Runner Twin’s soul was always full of love for their counterpart no matter how hurtful they’d been in life.

Your Twin’s soul has nothing but love for you. So many times in readings I’ve felt the pain of Runner Twins’ souls, who only wanted to love. Who felt terrible for the pain they were inflicting…

If you’re hurting right now, you might find it healing to read this: Message To You From Your Twin Flame’s Soul.

In the Free Help Kit for Twin Flames there’s a deep alpha level meditation which takes you through exactly how to connect with your Twin’s soul in a safe and loving way. I receive emails every day about the wonderful experiences twins all over the world are having with this. You can download it here right now.


#3) Clear Both Your Energy Systems and the Channels Between You

On the Twin Flame journey when Ascension is triggered, all the baggage we’ve taken on in earthly life is triggered to come up to be cleared and released.

This means old wounds resurface and all the painful past stuff gets stirred up again on its way out.

Because the Twin Flames are so closely connected and are originally one consciousness, it is extremely common for Twin Flames to trigger each other.

The roots of Running are old wounds being triggered again by negativity traveling from one Twin to the other.

Have you noticed that Running often happens right after amazing experiences of love and togetherness? In these moments – especially when there’s a sexual climax – the Twins come so close their energies open to each other.

All the wounds laid bare, and when this happens, triggering is incredibly common.

Spirit asked me especially to create a healing track for Twin Flames to clear the channels between the pair, to eradicate these common triggers of Running and Separation.

I did this with myself and my Twin on our journey all the time. Because I discovered that things like memories of relationships and attachments from past lovers not only impact one Twin, but both.

Clearing the channels between you and your Twin regularly will remove any triggers of Running/Chasing/Separation and allow you to raise your connection into harmony.

This will give your Twin the emotional and energetic “space” to calm down and feel safe to open up again. When you remove the triggers you allow for harmony to be restored.

#4) Practice Creative Visualization of Your Ideal

We’re always creating. When we think, we create. When we speak, we create. When we write, we create. When we feel, we create.

We’re always sending out messages in the form of energy to the universe, reaping back what we’re in alignment with.

Creative Visualization is an amazing and enjoyable way to begin consciously creating what you desire. If your Twin Flame is a Runner, visualize them with you in harmony.

Visualize your ideal situation. No matter how unrealistic it seems to start with, it will begin to shift your energy and your reality field to create it and invite it in. And it will positively impact your Twin Flame too. Try it for 30 days and notice the shifts.

(To make it as easy for you as possible, especially if you find it hard to focus or meditate, there’s a specially formulated visualization for Twin Flames in the Vibrational Alignment Program).

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Creative visualization is an ancient Hindu method but has become famous in recent years. An array of leading lights credit their success to Creative Visualization, from Will Smith and Oprah Winfrey to Jim Carrey and Tiger Woods, to name a few.

For an article on the science of it, go here.

#5) Stay Open to How The Change Might Happen

The human instinct is to expect more of what we’ve already experienced. It’s hard wired in our brains.

So if your Twin has been “running”, the most obvious thing for your mind is to expect more of the SAME. But that’s not doing you any favors! And, it’s not actually TRUE!

Things change ALL THE TIME. Both in life and in relationships. Couples who have been happily married for 30 years were once strangers to each other.

Celebrities who are plastered across the internet were once completely unknown. Change happens all the time – happy change too.

I know you might be frustrated with this article, thinking it’s so unlikely that your Twin will ever change…

You have to give them and your energy a chance to shift, though. Try it this new way – if the old ways haven’t worked then it’s only logical. Allow yourself a set time, even, but make sure you stick to your new “routine”.

For some people it’s an almost instant shift but for others it might take a little bit of time. When you begin manifesting, it’s like planting a flower seed in the ground.

It has to first sprout, then grow for a while under the ground before you even see the visible little green shoot come up above the ground. Then, it grows up for a while before the flower comes forth.

When you begin shifting your energy and clearing blocks that have been in the way for your connection, things begin to change… But it happens in the
“unseen” first.

The “reality results” could show up in unexpected ways, but know that once you begin to shift your energy, your focus and your expectation – they are MOST DEFINITELY on the way.

As always, I’m sending you love and light for your onward journey! <3

Cassady x

Ready for happy changes? Begin cleansing your chakras and shifting your connection into harmony today with my Free Help Kit for Twin Flames!

Or, to go deeper, explore the 10 module Vibrational Alignment Program – a complete roadmap to Twin Flame Union

You can also read here about the experiences other Twins have had with my methods. 

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  1. Thank you for this explanation! I wish I would have found you 11 years ago 😉

    I’ve learn a lot on this journey, about myself and the twin flame yourney, and I’m finally at peace and know everything will work out.
    It took me a long time to figure out how this push and pull, between twins, was working. When I met him I had never heard of twin flames but I so was afrait of loosing him.
    I know my twin is going to some purging right now but I’m still very relaxed and confident that he will work his way through this and we will get in union.
    We always stayed in contact and do see each other on a regular base. It was diffucult when he was quiet or distant, but deep down I knew it. This is ment to be.
    What surprices me is, that I’m so at peace right now, while I know that he is dealing with old baggage and hurt and wounds from his past .
    Almost every day I’m telling his higher self that everything is ok and that he is save with me and that I’m there for him.
    Thanks again for all your blogs, I’m still learning new thing about this yourney

  2. This helped a lot. I feel more peace now than before. Sometimes I feel pain , but I gather that’s just because him and I are clearing more blocks. Cleaning up the pieces left over. I feel he’s going to call me any day now. The last thing he needs hel with is just gathering the confidence to contact me. I’ll work on his energy in that way. Thank you Cassady for this article. 🙂

  3. Just wow! My TF and I have been together for nearly 2 years. Our harmonious cycle was jolted just one month after our wedding in Nov. He had medical issues and then I had medical issues. Both were near death also. He has legal issues then I have legal issues. Both are frivolous. All of this has unbalanced the harmony & energy in our relationship. Even though the unconditional, beautiful TF love is there, we need to work on getting positive energy aligned.

  4. Wow, Cassady ~ Thank you so much for this article. It came at the perfect time for me and I am sure many others. I had a heart to heart with my TF earlier this week and he confirmed my suspicions of a drug addiction and severe depression. As you could imagine, this week has been an emotional roll coaster and there have been a few times when I considered just “throwing in the towel”….it would be easier than dealing with this right?….wrong! I realized, and this article backed up, the fact that I want to continue on this journey and be open to doing a little more work on my part. Our communication haven’t been where I would like to to be these days, but I can not see this as a set back …rather a step forward. Thank you so much again!

  5. My twin flame is a recovering alcoholic. In the span of 4 months she had an affair, ended our relationship when I found out about it, relapsed, stayed with this other person for a couple of weeks. She is home now, doesn’t trust me because I searched though her iPad which is how I found out about the affair. WTH do I do?? We live in the same house, separate rooms. I am pretty much keeping my distance hoping that once she gets into rehab she will at least understand what I did and why. She lied to me about it even when I sensed it. The checking if the emails just confirmed that what I felt was right.

    How do I regain trust with my twin? Living at home isn’t terrible. In the beginning she would stay in her room with her door closed, as I go about and do my own thing she seems to be gravitating to where I am a little more. I just want her back, I want all this drama past us … but first I want her to trust me again … Any ideas??

  6. Cassady, thank you for always offering practical, applicable advice. I appreciate that your blog sidesteps a lot of the “cloud speak” we get with so much of this information from other sources. I think the “down to earthness” of your advice is helpful for grounding.

    Also, thank you for mentioning the part about the universe not knowing that we don’t want something to happen to our twin. I know this is talked about all the time but I have an incredible fear around something happening to my TF before reunion can happen in the physical. I lost both my parents at a young age so I think I have a fear of the universe not being there for me or good things not being meant for me or something. I’ve been trying to work with this energy by writing down those fears and burning up the piece of paper. Any other ways for me to work on clearing these energies?

  7. I have a question that I am hoping someone can help me to answer. I understand that they best way of handling the ups and downs while ascending to TF union is to allow your twin the time and space they need to heal themselves, while we work on ourselves. For lack of better terms, “let the runner, run”. My question is how is it best to handle a TF who “checks in” periodically to make sure we are still there? My first thought is to react immediately and let him know all is okay; however, is that best? I’m sure if I was in a higher vibration (which I am working on but not fully there yet), I wouldn’t have to ask this question. He may not be aware on the surface, but inside, he knows he is safe with me and that I am there but with so much ego, will reacting to his communication immediately only reset the pattern of being closed out again and again until he is ready?

  8. I’m sort of having the same question and i doubt that anyone but ourselves can answer it correctly. I try to react & do what i do based on what feels right in my heart. I think that overanalysing just makes it harder to distinguish our intuition+heart from our ego+”reason”…
    Ask your guides, your higher self for help if needed.
    I’m more calm with my decisions when i don’t make drama over every action i make. At least i know it was from the heart;)…

  9. Thank you for this website, the Universe brought me here :-).

    How can we be sure that someone is our Twin? I think I have met my twin flame, we were together for a while and the connection is unbelievable, it’s like we feel what the other feels without even being physically with each other. I saw our past life together and I feel like we are connected on a soul level. But she keeps on running, and the most puzzling thing for me is that the more she runs the more sure I am she will come back. But what if I’m wrong, what if we are not Twin Flames, maybe she’s pushing me away so much, so that I finally let go of her and meet someone else? And the Universe keeps on sending love signs, which to me signifies to keep on loving her, but the more I love her the more she runs away, it’s so confusing, I don’t know what to believe anymore, I feel like I’m wasting my time keeping on loving her, and that I should just let go and forget her and open up to other souls… Does anybody have any advice, similar experience?

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