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Soul vs Ego – Awakening Sleeper Twins and Dismantling Ego. How to “Unlock” their Inner Knowing and Help Them Remember Your Eternal Connection…

Many Twin Flames are in the situation of being one of a pair where their other half is “running”, resistant or not open to spiritual methods – what many would describe as being “stuck in ego”.

I get so many questions about how to handle this – why the situation is so imbalanced and why the Twin Flame connection often seems to be this way… I completely understand the frustrations it can cause.

To immediately help with any struggles you might be experiencing right now, I would highly recommend using energy clearing and management.

This is the most powerful method I’ve encountered on my own journey, and you can read about other Twins’ amazing experiences with energy clearing here.

I created the Vibrational Alignment Program especially for Twin Flames, and you can get a “sample” with a powerful energy cleanse tool in my Free Help Kit here.

Soul Vs Ego Self – What’s The Difference, And How Do I Help My Twin Shift Out of Ego?

In truth, Ego is simply the  “facade” or “mask” that the soul wears while we live here on earth. The beliefs and structures of self that we take on both from our own experiences and from others’ perceptions of us and the “stories” we are told about who we are.

In spiritual circles Ego is often villified, but in truth it’s a protective psychological mechanism that’s designed to protect us.

However, Ego can be problematic because often this “protective device” consists of deeply entrenched negative beliefs and limiting perceptions which block the person from what’s to their highest good.


As the Ascension process of both Twin Flames and the earth itself progresses, more and more Unawakened Twin Flames (those who are still so attached to their Ego mask that they are as yet unaware of their soul identity) will be triggered more and more to step out of their temporary earthly identity and be guided to open up more to their inner knowing and their soul self.

Awakening is something all Twin Flames’ higher selves are working on continuously…

For many this triggering to “awaken from Ego” is already happening, but it’s a process that requires some time so that the new changes can be safely integrated.

Often the beginning of this process occurs in a “dark night of the soul”, followed by subtle “prods” in the form of increased synchronicity, dream experiences that relate to the soul, and the gradual unravelling of the “baggage” of information, beliefs, energy, patterns, programming that have constituted the Ego mask.

Energy clearing is a powerful way to help your Twin Flame’s higher self remove the “dust” and “baggage” that’s kept them in unawareness of who they really are as a soul – so that they can more easily “awaken”.

Have a look at the Complete Harmony Clearing session for Twin Flames which spirit channeled to me for more info on this.

Complete harmony Healing Tool


Ultimately, more or less all Twin Flames have been pre-programmed energetically to “wake up” during their lifetimes on earth, the way you yourself did.

If you’re in the situation of being involved with a Twin who is still asleep, know that you are the frontrunner in that respect – your Twin will follow at some point.

In the Twin Pair, you yourselves pre-determined your characteristics before you came to this life.

You engineered the life circumstances, genetic background and place of upbringing for the two of you, enlisting other souls to help you along the way and eventually bring you back together.

Your path is full of pre-planned meetings, significant downloads of energy, times when things will shift up a gear in togetherness, understanding and so on. Your Awakening from “Ego” is already planned.

The human conception will be to think that this will happen at a particular time but the real truth is it’s about “clicking into the right energy” – when your vibration reaches a certain point you “call in” those you have soul contracts with.

Divine timing is all about energy locking in, not about chronological time – although sometimes the two can interact.


So, having said that there is a particular energy reconfiguration many Twin Flame pairs engineered: for one to be more spiritually attuned, and for one to be more materially attuned.

In order for the Two of you to come together, a combination of skills would be necessary. And we are talking in terms of soul plane skills.

Your Twin Flame, who may be “spiritually unawakened” is actually a gift to you in soul terms.

Because of their material orientation, they are the one grounding your new light codes and your coming together into the earth reality. All while they’re still seemingly “stuck in Ego”.

The fact that they are materially oriented means they are the last of the two of you to “awaken”, but this is a gift.

Think of it as you being the scout, the spiritual explorer – you do not just collect understanding and new light codes and release negativity for yourself, no, you do everything as a pair.

I know this sounds like a lot to some of you – but separation is an illusion. Twin Flames are one being consciousness expressed in two bodies.


Whenever you reach new levels of understanding and energy vibration it impacts your Twin. And when they ground your new understanding into the earth planes in the form of energy grids and light codes, they impact you.

Together you work as a team. So, first of all, please try not to feel bad that your Twin is in “Ego” – this is simply a side effect of their material bias. Long-term of course they will awaken too.

In order for the two of you to successfully complete your journey back to love – from the beginnings, to anchor in Unconditional Divine Love into the earth planes – you divided your attentions this way.

Collaboratively, you would get further.

Some Twin pairs are more “equally” divided where both possess a level of each “soul skill set”.

For those who have divided their attentions into the spiritual and the material, I understand that it can be a source of frustration to feel that you are not able to communicate or reach your divine counterpart who is still “stuck in ego”.

8 Ways To Help An Unawakened Twin Flame Remember and Shift Into Knowing:


The so-called Ego is a mask, it’s not a “real thing”. In reality, there is no difference between the soul and the ego. It’s a human conception that there’s an ego versus a spirit, but I understand your point.

In truth, you are always your soul and so is your Twin Flame.

The ego is simply the human “story” that’s been attached to the soul in this lifetime. A “mask”.

I would encourage you to begin using new words about these themes, as the old concepts such as “Ego” and Runner have a lot of entrenched energy attached to them.

If your Twin is as yet unawakened, they are simply still attached to the “story” of who they’ve told that they are in their human life. Their soul is still there.


Your Unawakened Twin is no less spiritual than you, because the soul is inherently spiritual. Your Twin’s spirituality and awareness has simply been “covered up” by the baggage of human life.

This is what your Ascension work is helping to uncover. As you clear your energy, you clear for the both of you. As you release your baggage, you help release their baggage – soon their “true soul self” begins to shine through.

To read more and see a brief video on how this works, have a look here.


As your collective pair energy increases in frequency again back to your origins of love, light, peace and all the higher energies, you unlock their “innate encoded memory” of who they are as a soul.

When you came here you had “secret roadmaps” – light codes and templates – “hidden” in your spiritual “DNA”. As your journey unfolds and you raise your vibration, these are more and more activated.

If your Twin Flame is the “Sleeper” of you or still “Unawakened” to their true soul self, they are later than you in unlocking these codes and memories, but it will come. Every once in a while more is unlocked – their higher self makes sure of it.

For more on energy clearing and raising your energy frequency so you unlock these codes and templates with increased speed and ease, have a look here.


Please do not fear that your dissonance is a lasting thing – that your Twin is destined to stay ‘asleep’. Your Twin Soul will absolute awaken at some point, as per their Higher Self’s plan (which you yourself were a part of engineering pre-birth).

Exactly when this happens, depends on energy vibration and the situation as it is unfolding between the two of you and in your life situations. Divine Timing is all about the intersection of energy – when it’s a “vibrational match”.


Even though your Twin Soul may be in “Ego” still, they are continuously interacting with you as their true spiritual self.

If you begin to pay attention to what is going on behind the scenes, on the soul planes, you can get a “preview” of your Awakened Twin Flame – because their soul is there fully awakened the whole time. Just wearing the “costume” of Ego on the outside.

Meditating on your Twin Flame’s Soul Self can be a wonderful experience, and deeply helps to reignite their own “Earth Self”s awareness of your connection.

To get a free deep alpha level meditation for this, download the Twin Flame Transformation Kit.


Meditating with your Twin’s soul and interacting with them in meditations, astral journeying, dreams and so on is a powerful way to help stir their conscious awareness of who they are as a soul.

The more you strengthen this “spiritual” bond between you – without even needing to say a word to them in person – the more you strengthen their soul presence in their own life and help the baggage and the veil of perception to come away.

As you strengthen their soul by interacting with it, you help this soul be the source of their identity more and more.


Make sure you don’t entrench the energy by focusing on your Twin Flame as being stuck in Ego. Focus on what you do desire. Feel the feeling of having your ideal now. The joy of how that would feel.

Manifestation is double-powerful with Twin Flames, because you are dealing with your own energy consciousness.

This can be amazing when you are focusing on positivity – but when you affirm and intend negativity for your Twin Flame, it tends to entrench the energy in them and block the very progress you’re desiring.

I would recommend Creative Visualization for Twin Flames to focus your powers on positive manifestation (you’ll find that in the program here).

Of course you’re not creating struggle or blocks deliberately, but it’s very helpful to become aware of how your thinking/feeling/focus impacts the situation.

Affirm positive messages and intentions for them instead of focusing on the frustration of your Twin being in Ego.

One could be “My Twin Flame is awakening more and more every day to their true soul nature and we are getting closer and closer in mind, feeling and frequency. And so it is”.


You can always ask your Twin Soul’s higher self for direct help on your journey, to uplift you and your Twin on all levels and to help the two of you release any fear based patterns and attachments that may be keeping your Twin soul in fear of letting go of what they’ve become accustomed to in life.

Some Twins hold onto the “facade” because they are afraid of what will happen if they let it go. Their Higher Self will always work until they let go, but it may take time.

Energy healing, inner child work and interacting with their soul directly, plus asking their higher self and guides for help, can speed up this process considerably.

Especially by clearing away entrenched fear-based energies and attachments.


Thank you so much for this question and please always remember that you are on this journey because you are infinitely capable – you yourself know that you hold the key to returning to Unconditional Love and Union!

Sending you love and light for your continued journey! <3

Cassady x

“This is just magical and I’m moved to tears…This huge block between us just dissolved in a snap and we are now closer than ever before! It’s like a miracle just happened before my very eyes. All this came from your work, your vibrational alignment program, and the techniques you share. She and I are doing the work, of course, but it would be so much more difficult and long without you. The only way is UP…So thank you, thank you, thank you..with positivity and abundance in all ways.”

Laurent C. Paris, France

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  1. Hi Cassady, thank you for this helpful article. My twin is the one attached to the material side of this reality and I am the total opposite. I know he doesn’t allow himself to let go emotionally and spiritually out of fear. I do the harmonising and your inner child energy clearing sessions every day… i know things are shifting even though things seem slow and sometimes stuck but it’s beautiful to communicate in this way. I am in a soulmate relationship at the moment. And my partner resembles so much in personality to my twin to the point that sometimes he says or will say things that my twin has already said or will say not long after maybe in a text or phone call. Is it possible that soulmate relationships can be a a way of helping understand your twin better or a way of communicating when you are in separation? Sometimes my partner will behave in similar ways or will say things that my twin could say. Could some soulmate relationships be preparing for a twinflame one? Thank-you for everything you do for us every week! Lots of love your way xx

  2. Thank you for this, I needed it precisely today. I’ve known that I was the more spiritually in-tune one and he, the materially in-tune one, but I’ve not languaged it in that way before now. This makes sense that I am not “more evolved” than he, but rather, we are both evolved in yin/yang aspects of our one shared self. I know this at certain times, but other times I do not. I have had a tendency to lose myself in others, forgoing my strengths in favor of ensuring that my beloved not “feel badly” about him/herself… but I realize that in doing so, I am judging them to be lesser than, when really, they (and my Twin, in this case, now) are just evolved differently. I see him waking up to his spiritual/soul aspect more and more every day, and because I can see his potential, I can sometimes get impatient with the process when he says things that are straight outta the fear based story, because I KNOW that he is a Sacred Warrior and that eventually he will see things differently… but so will I… I also realize now, that as a result of my orientation in this lifetime, I have been shielded from knowing my own power, from executing this power on the Earth plane, and from many aspects of the “materially in-tuned” life – much of which has frustrated me. And I know he is here to teach me how to stand up in my power and to execute my life on Earth in a focused and driven manner. We must be careful where we place our judgment, because I know for me, it has blocked me from lessons I could be learning from him, because I was too busy thinking that I was more evolved. I’m a classic Wounded Healer – and I recognize that I need others, him, to help me heal my own wound of disempowerment. Thanks for this take on this. Like I said, today was the day I was ready to hear it. Much love, and thanks for the work you do. <3

  3. Hi Annie, what a wonderful insight and thanks for your kind words! Yes, I’ve noticed with Soul Mates that they often seem to “collaborate” with the Twin Flames’ souls and assist in understanding, learning, shifting perspectives between the twins. Sometimes this way, expressing ideas and things from the “absent” twin. This has happened to me as well – there’s a lot more happening behind the scenes than we might realize from our conscious perspective…!

    Sending you love and light <3 xx : )

  4. Hi Rain, thank you so much for your kind words! Sounds like things are really shifting and progressing in a wonderful direction for you <3 Even though it might feel a little slow for you right now, remember there's been a lot of energy settled from both of your lives which is now shifting out bit by bit in a way that's safe for you and your Twin so you can both align with your harmony and union. How wonderful to see your souls that way! xx

    Sending you love and light! xx Cassady

  5. AFAurore, thank you for sharing! I’m so glad this was insightful for you : )

    A lot of “awakening” and our whole life journey/twin connection is about developing and unfolding perspectives, sometimes a new angle opens up our energy and journey in a different way and allows for a new creation, a new manifestation – how wonderful that this could “unlock” something positively for you!

    And I completely agree, we all have our strengths and we are always learning something from one another to expand and lift into more and more joy and love. Judgment is ultimately a misperception – if we haven’t travelled another’s path, we cannot understand why or how they are exactly the way they are… 🙂 Opening up and refraining from judgment helps us avoid negative energy “sticking” in our fields and creating blocks too.

    Sending you love and light <3 xx

  6. Cassady, I love your posts & so look forward to them. I’ve had your forecast from two weeks ago on replay in my head-the one where you reminded us that no matter what happens in outside energies, we are ALWAYS in control. That post really shifted something for me. I had been doing well, and then a lot of negative energy that I was trying to release got “stuck” & I went through a bit of difficulty trying to release it for good. Your posts continue to be in complete alignment with what I need to hear (or will soon need to hear), and your reminder that I’m an infinite being of light and that I have the power to control energy to manifest the life experience I desire was the kick in the pants I needed. Your last blog posts have been spot on for helping to eradicate blocks that have been coming up for me (some that are subconscious and that I definitely need to address). I can feel myself anchoring in to the 5D more and more, and noticing all of the syncrhonicities and shifts in my life is giving me even more hope for the future and happiness for today. Every day I’m conscious of my energy and I can feel my vibration getting higher and higher. Thank you, Cassady.. you are such a gift! Love and light to you! xo

  7. Thank you again. This is so right on with my life now. Your words sustains me once again may Again. Pene

  8. Cassady,

    Thanks for the post! I suppose that I am the twin that is more spiritually attuned, but prior to our “separation”, I was sure that he was far more spiritual than me. Whenever we interacted, it felt divine in some respect and he would say such wise things and always had this loving, calming, gentle chivalry about him — like an angel from heaven. He taught me so much and gave me so much faith in the world, he showed me what love is. But he wasn’t sure if he believed in God and never remembered his dreams — people told me that was a sign that he is not spiritually awakened. I wonder now if I was misplacing our divine connection for his spirituality or if we are one of the pairs that both share some spirituality and material-ness, but different and complimentary aspects of these things.

    Anyway, I don’t judge him and don’t care who is more awakened or not — I always love interacting with him on the soul plane, especially in dreams or meetings we have when I am awake. I had a feeling that this was benefitting him on a deeper level but am so glad to hear that it is actually helping to awaken him of his true soul self. The person that I see and love eternally no matter what. ??

  9. Hi Cassady, do you still do private readings? I remember when I first found your page you mentioned your twin is on the other side/in spirit…mine is as well and although he has left me so many signs that he is still here I haven’t really been able to learn how to communicate with him like I’d hope. I feel like your the only person I could trust and that he would be able to communicate to me through you…and with alot of your posts I feel like this is happening as well. So I was hoping to get a private reading that maybe would shed some light on this sadness….in the meantime sending you love & light <3

  10. Hi Cassady. First of all your articles and guidance have been a blessing, thank you! I wanted to get your insights on twin flame shared dreams. When I first met my twin flame a little over a year ago I started dreaming about her the very next day. A couple of months later I awakened to my true nature as twin flames and from that day on I dreamt about her twice a week or more for the next year. Over 100 dreams; each dream we got closer and closer, interacted more, became more loving and affectionate. Just within the last couple of months I really kicked up my energy work and clearing. Using several of your tools and others I have come across along my journey. The odd thing is ever since I started really clearing out all the old stuff the shared dreams with my twin have gone way down. Now its maybe one or two dreams a month rather than twice a week. The syncs I experienced during waking life have increased however. I see her name, her birthday, see twins everywhere I go. I’ll go out to eat and my server has her same name. Is that common to experience? My twin is what we often refer to as the sleeper. She is younger than I am and got out of a long term relationship around the same time I learned about twin flames (about a year ago). Again, thank you for your love and support! Blessings, Rob

  11. Cassady, thank you so much for your insights. I have been on this TF roller coaster now for a little over a year. What you are saying resonates with what Spirit and my higher self are showing me- I must move beyond my Ego self and begin working towards the highest good.

    I am so blessed to have the support and unconditional love of my twin. She has shaken up my world and my life has taken a turn 180 degrees from where I used to be. Although I would love to have a romantic relationship with her, I know that right now this is not feasible. I am being shown by Spirit that the purpose of our union is first and foremost in service to others. I believe we have a professional future together and It is my deepest desire to work together towards this goal.

    For now I plan to get my life in order, clean up loose ends, and focus on my own spiritual and professional development. I set intentions every morning letting her know I am standing beside her and I am here for her when she is ready, i.e. leaving the door open for her. This is all I can do in this moment.

  12. I must be the forerunner. But I have faith! I have dreams of (who I think is) my twin flame – who I haven’t met yet – who tells me things in the dream state. Then in 3D life he will write that exact thing he told me on social media. To be precise, he told me he had the same rare blood type as me in the dream, then in waking life posted that information on Twitter. The synchronicity continued – I replied to this tweet because of the synchronicity (and i rarely reply to anything). As i looked at the tweet I wrote it at 1:11 on the 15/5/2015 which numerologically is a 1 day – making it 11:11. That was the strongest synchronicity I have ever had in my entire life!

  13. Cassidy? I keep asking to dream of him, just to see him. I ask, his high self, look at his picture before bed,…etc but still. Any advice? Thanks for all you contribute to our journey! Peace and love!

  14. Hi Cassady
    With every article i read from you, it comes down to following ‘energy clearing meditations’ from ‘vibration alignment program’. Although it gets hard sometimes but I am following them for last seven months. And the results are amazing.

    For people reading this, when me and my twin separated, I was shown this info that we will reunite after around 10 years. And now after around 7 months, spirits are giving me message that the separation time has first reduced to 7 years and now it has reduced to around 5 years.

    It seems that each month that i follow the program, the separation time is reducing by an year 🙂

    At this speed, i am going to break your 18 months reunion record, Cassady 🙂

    For everyone’s knowledge, i am following these tools:
    Vibration Alignment Program
    Inner child Healing
    Twin Harmony healing

    In addition to above, i my self practice
    Kundalini yoga(from a highly trained master) and
    have gone through a couple of ‘Past Life Regression'(Whenever i was guided by my intuition)

    Overall i am seeing huge changes in my Twin’s life(even though we are still in separation phase), And this article validates or confirms that ‘CONNECTING WITH THEM ON THE SOUL PLANES HELPS AWAKEN THEM’. Yup I am seeing this happening.

    I came to realize that there are many twins around me and now i will be working to get them introduced to vibration alignment program, by educating them in workshops. 🙂

    Wish me luck and i hope i break your reunion record 🙂

    Thanks for all these articles, they are a great help to me.

  15. Emily, Thanks for the question and I understand this must be challenging. Spirit suggests trying to embrace this from a point of looking for the gift in the experience. Your soul might be helping you to disregard any outside traits in your twin in order to show you that it’s the essence of who you and she are, that is the core of your connection. To go beyond the “human” aspects of appearance/name/traits. And also to show you the many ways you have known this person as a soul over the lifetimes… Try to hone the essence of your Twin and focus on this, it seems that this will cut through any confusion you’re sensing.

    Sending you love and light <3 xx Cassady

  16. Hi Samantha, I’m not doing one on one readings anymore but we go into a lot of methods for communicating with someone on the other side in the Vibrational Alignment Program, for Twins in this situation to develop their own channel of communication.

    I would recommend the meditation in the free help kit plus the cleanse tool to connect with your twin, this will really help open the channel between you and clear any congestion that’s kept you unable to perceive him.

    As a general rule of thumb, know that your twin is always with you in spirit – he will never leave you, it’s just a question of whether you’re open to perceiving/hearing him. He’ll always hear you when you speak to him and this will help you open the channel too. Even if you feel a bit “crazy” at first, speaking to him in your mind will help you open the channel for him to answer as well.

    Sending you love and light <3 xx

  17. Hi Param,

    I’m so happy for you! Thank you so much for sharing this! : ) What a wonderful experience, to see the hands on changes and results like this – great going! Your guides are “clapping” for you!

    Sending you love and light <3 xx


  18. thank you! I feel like I do a ton of clearings, am in general a great mood, let go of the how’s ( in reference to meeting/being together) etc I think it would be great to see him in person in my dream too..yeah, a hug. Peace and love back Jo!

  19. Dear Cassady, how exactly does the material twin ‘ground’ new awareness and light codes into the earth plane? xxx

  20. Hey Cassady.

    I’d honestly say, that I haven’t trusted a stranger in a long time. Yet your kindness and objective honesty has earned you lots of my respect and trust. Though I’m not yet able to afford your programs as of now, what you provide has been a God send. Many so called awakened twins, at times say very dubious things and I’ve encountered a few very frustrated twins who feel cheated esp because most timeline predictions don’t come true. But your blog had shifted the focus to personal responsibility.

    That’s the most empowering thing anyone will ever gift to another. What a God-Send!

    All Love, light and blessings to you.

  21. It’s like mining for gold. You keep searching for it because You want to find it. And You will find Your gold if that is Your deep desire because desire is a piece of you as a part of this world. It make up Your reality, queued up in Your lifetime, everywhere around You. :* Just stay in Your Self.

  22. Hi Cassady…I wonder if you could answer this question for me…me and my twin have been on this journey for 8yrs and he has awakened in that time but has went back to sleep…back into this ego mask where he can't remember any of the awakened stuff…is there a reason for this?…is he just not getting rid of the fear on an unconscious level?…or is there a deeper level of understanding to come from this?…any advice would be deeply appreciated..I have been doing all you meditations for years…and the gold coaching…I really don't know what else I can do..x

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