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Surprising Info: Everything they can’t tell you in life. What Your Twin Flame’s Higher Self Desperately Wants You To Know…

After beginning my journey of awakening, I have been on a rollercoaster of learning and exploration and my life has transformed beyond what I ever imagined possible.

Sometimes I still have to pinch my arm to remember that I’m not dreaming…

As well as my own journey of learning, I have been fortunate to work with, coach, do intuitive readings for and talk with thousands upon thousands of Twins from all over the world, both as personal clients and via the comments and emails I receive every day.

This means I’m fortunate to be in a pretty unique situation – knowing that Twins all over the world really are struggling with a lot of the same issues, even if they’re not aware of each other.

Apologies From The “Runner”

Whenever I’ve done readings with Twins whose divine counterpart was running or avoiding them, their higher soul self has always been extremely apologetic.

This part of them is invariably genuinely in love with their Twin Flame no matter what their ego self has done or said, and this Higher Soul aspect is always desperate to show them how devoted they are to uniting.

(As a side note for those whose Twin is on the other side – the message I always get from them is that they are not really “gone”. They are with you every day, talking to you, hugging you, kissing you, holding your hand, comforting you, trying everything they can to help make you happy.)

Contrasts Of Self

It’s often been really uncomfortable to feel this deep pain as I’ve “translated” to the readee, because it truly feels like the pain of someone who is desperate to show their love, and to take away any hurt they may ever have caused.

It’s became more and more obvious to me with each reading, that no matter what someone’s Twin Soul has been doing or acting like in their earthly life, their Higher Self often has a completely different take on the situation.

And the biggest thing is, they are all about love.

So today, the focus is on what your Twin’s higher self wants you to know.



I know the idea of spirit guides isn’t something everyone is comfortable with. However, I hope you’ll give me a few sentences to “de-mystify” the whole thing considerably.

What makes it seem especially “woo woo” is this idea of spirits as completely different to us, mysterious beings from a secret realm or some other “out there” perception.

The truth is, spirit guides and our higher selves are just like us: souls. The difference is that they’re not living in bodies right now – they’re “disincarnate”, they exist as pure energy and not in the physical reality as souls in bodies (“incarnate”) the way we are.

They’re simply like me and you, but without bodies and the complications we have with life on earth. Your team of guides are like your group of soul friends and mentors, who you made an agreement with before life. When you were also “disincarnate”.

Together, you planned that they would be guiding and assisting you on your adventure to earth while they stayed behind in the soul realms (non-physical existence).

You knew you most likely wouldn’t hear them or see them when you came to life, but that they’d give you guidance in other ways and help you connect with the people and situations that would get you to where you wanted to go in life – including to reconnect with your Twin Flame and help you unite with them.

Your guides are always available to help you – but because of the Law Of Free Will, which means that everyone who is living on earth get to make their own choices, they don’t step in unless you ask them to.

Your guides can help you more closely once you begin to ask for it.

Your guides will never “give you all the answers” but they’ll help you make choices that serve you and help you live the happiest life you could ever live – that’s why you’re here. To be happy, to unite with your Twin Flame, to help others be happy, to share your gifts with others.

In order to get direct help from your guides, you have to ask. Some people call this “praying”. Their own suggestion is for you to begin to meditate or journal and clear your energy regularly, because this opens you up for them to begin to reach through and talk to you, give you signs and messages and help lift your mind and heart.

As little as 5 minutes a day will help you open up.

“In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you” – Deepak Chopra

Most of all they want us to know that they’re working to help us all the time, by bringing to our attention information, methods, tools and help that can get us to our goals and dreams and happiness.

But once they’ve presented that to us, it’s always up to us to make the choice.

They will never force us.

I personally send out a request to the universe every day, calling in any Twin Flames who will benefit from my writing and the tools and methods I share. I know that many of you are here today reading this article because your guides and your soul want you to have this information – you’re here for a reason.


Getting assistance on your journey helps you feel more supported and loved and cared for, and it can be so much fun – in my experience and for others who also communicate with their guides, it makes life more like an adventure.

It helps uplift us out of the realm of the mundane and “difficulty” and “problems” and into the realm of “miracles” where it’s never a question of a desire being impossible, just which solution can get you there with the most joy. It’s been some of the most fun I’ve ever had, working with my guides.

For more info on how to connect with your guides and find out who’s in your “team” and about your pre-life goals, including tools for how to open up to telepathy and a tool to get any being to tell you the truth – so you avoid negative influence – have a look here.

#2) THERE IS ALWAYS LOVE – You Are Your Twin Soul’s Greatest Love, no matter what’s going on on earth right now

A lot of Twin Flame writing seems to mistake the Ascension process for the actual journey, and therefore get into the belief that this is a path and a love fraught with difficulty and “beautiful suffering”…

The truth is, the Twin Flame connection is utter bliss. The Twin Flame connection is all Love. It’s the old baggage that’s creating problems for Twin Flames, not the connection itself.

Twin Flame Ascension is a completely neutral process which is designed (and you signed up for this!) to purge out all the earth junk you took on during your upbringing, as well as any negative material your ancestors have passed down to you through your DNA.

The reason for this is that those energies are blocks to love. True love.

In order for you and your Twin to uncover the deep bond of immaculate love that has always existed between you, that old junk must go. Consider it an Aladdin’s cave of treasures that’s been covered up by dust and cardboard boxes.

Ascension is all about clearing out the dust and boxes so the treasure that was there all along can shine the way it’s supposed to.

Ascension is just a small part of the journey. It’s not what the journey is about. Running and separation are all caused by the negativity coming up in Ascension. It’s really not something that’s happening to teach you some hard lesson because the universe wants Twin Flames to suffer in order to feel love.

It’s just a by-product of the old junk triggering you as it comes up to be released.

In fact, inflicting suffering on us to “teach us lessons” would only cause more blocks to unconditional love and slow down our journeys… The universe and our guides would never do that.

“One is loved because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving.”
Paulo Coelho

Ascension is there as a cleansing process to open you up to Unconditional Love and who you really are as a soul underneath all the earth energies you’ve taken on. You are here to awaken to that and live from that.



For Twin Flames this is crucial knowledge, because there is so much focus on the negatives of the Twin journey.

The truth is that you are your Twin Soul’s greatest love, no matter what’s going on in your lives right now – earth life is wearing the “mask of ego”, but the soul is unchanging and the love between Twin Flames never ends. Your bond is unbreakable.

If you align with much of the Twin Flame info that’s out there, you’ll end up living this connection as if it’s a problem rather than a pleasure. The truth is, you yourself have more power in this than most realize. If you match your energy to “the twin flame journey is a struggle” that’s what you’ll get more of.

Now you know that it’s not actually the whole journey but the specific part called Ascension, you know that it’s not all about pain or hurt or lesson learning or struggle. You can align with the new insight that it’s a part of it, and joyously look forward to being free of any old limitations your soul is pushing you to release.

To speed up the Ascension and purification process and take the pain out of the connection, have a look at the Vibrational Alignment Program which I created along with spirit after my Twin and I reached union.

#3) “I AM YOU AND YOU ARE ME”- If you’d been born in your Twin Flame’s life/body/family/patterns…

Twin Flames are two expressions of the originally same consciousness – “one soul in two bodies”. As souls, it’s simple, harmonious, joyous, infinite love. What complicates things, is life on earth – the energy, patterns and ego/identity structures taken on. This, and the actions that result from it, is where the problems stem from.

In dire situations on my own journey early on – when I was finding it near impossible to forgive my Twin for actions and choices that went against everything I stood for – spirit helped me with this:

If you had been born in your Twin Flame’s body, with their ancestral lineage, as their gender, with their patterns and upbringing – you would be them… And if they had been born in your situation, they would be you.

This might seem simplified, but it’s true. As souls, you and your Twin Flame are the two most identical individuals in the universe. You share a core frequency that no one else shares.

What most often gets between Twin Flames, is perspectives, the illusion of difference. Keeping this truth in mind, helps us understand why the other has acted the way they have, and it teaches us that there is always more to a situation than we can see on the surface.

This has been one of the deepest and most difficult lessons I’ve experienced myself and seen in others, but if you can open up to and sense the truth in this, your connection will never be the same again.

Conflict between human beings is based in the ego perception of difference, so connect to the truth that you and your Twin Flame share the same essence.

This dissolves the Ego boundaries that keeps so many Twins locked in a perpetual battle of who’s “right” and who’s “wrong” and who’s “enlightened” and who’s “in ego”, or who’s “kind” and who’s “hurtful”…


Connecting to this insight that if you had been born in your Twin’s stead you would in essence be them, will really help you deeply forgive any hurt they may have brought to you. For me, this insight really unlocked my journey and enabled us to move past any old hurts for good.

The usual earth “3D” reality of polarity and perceived separation are opposites to unconditional love. When we begin to look for the connection and the likeness and the harmony between us and our Twin Flame, that’s what we will nourish and bring out more of.

Often in the Ascension process, what triggers running, separation and trouble is that the Twins are triggered by negative energy travelling from one to the other as the pair’s systems are brought together more and more.

Spirit recently pushed me to create a channeled clearing for the Twin Flame pair to deal with this – made complete with chakra cleansing, shielding, clearing triggers of running/chasing/negativity, uplifting and unifying the pair’s energies and timelines, downloading new light codes and removing any blockages in the chakra systems and between the Twins.

Complete harmony Healing Tool

You can read more about this here.

#4) YOUR TWIN’S SOUL IS ALWAYS WITH YOU IN IMMACULATE LOVE – Call on them for love/help/comfort/support

Although life can seem hectic and troublesome with ups and downs and the drama of daily events, and the Twin Flame journey can become challenging – know that your Twin Soul’s Higher Self is always with you. All benevolent, all loving, all caring, all protective.

To try to put it as simply as possible – we exist in multiple “layers” of consciousness at all times. There’s our subconscious shadow aspects, which is our low vibrational consciousness that we seek to uplift and heal to raise our vibration.

There’s our earthly “ego” self, which usually dwells in the mid-range of frequencies – the so called 3D reality. Then there’s our soul/higher self, which exists in the higher frequencies only, the “5D reality and upward”.

When we meditate, we align more and more with the soul self, retiring from the density of the “3D reality”. This is one of the reasons meditation is so beneficial in raising our emotions and our energy vibration.

Both the shadow/ego and higher self are are “us”, but they exist on different “channels” of reality and we’re not always aware of them.

This is how your Twin’s higher self can be immaculately loving and joyous even though their earthly ego self is experiencing negativity and stress.

I was asked to bring forth a message from the souls of those Twins who are running, hurting or avoiding their divine complement in earthly life.

The message is that no matter what any earthly sides of the person is going through, your Twin Soul’s higher self has only immaculate, unconditional love and affection for you.

The more you learn to trust them and open up to the radiant love they offer, the more they can help you up into harmonized vibrations with your Twin Soul on *all* levels, in the physical “ego” domain as well.

Ask your Twin Soul’s higher self to connect with you, ask them to show that you can trust them, ask them to help you understand and remedy anything their lower ego aspect is going through, ask them to lift you up with proof of the love they really feel for you and to remind you of your eternal connection and their devotion to you.


It can be disheartening to see the person you feel electric love for and whose connection with you has changed your whole life, be cold or uncaring or directly hurtful towards you. Often, it feels crushing to people because they still feel the love beneath it all. This is why it’s nigh impossible for a Twin Flame to just let the other go and move on with their lives.

To connect with your Twin Flame’s higher self will be such a comfort and they can truly help you, both for your personal happiness and with your journey.

They will be so happy you asked. One way of doing this, is to write it out on a piece of paper and leaving it under your pillow at night. “I invite my Twin Soul’s Higher Self to engage with me and journey with me in love and joy”, and any specific concerns you would like help with. Be open to how the “answer” may show up – at times this can create a changed behavior in the Twin Soul’s earth self where they open up more, or your Twin Soul’s Higher Self might begin showing up in your dreams or meditations, you might get numerical signs shown to you frequently, or receive other intuitive insights or messages such as songs, images, words, feelings, even chills and tingles…

Enjoy this immaculately positive side of your Twin Flame connection! No matter what, your Twin’s Higher Self is there for you – in all ways, at all times.

#5) YOU ALWAYS KNEW YOU COULD MAKE IT – You’re here because you made the choice together

You and your Twin Flame planned your lives ahead of time. You agreed to come here.

You made sure that you would be born with the capability to come together in love, or that you would learn and gather tools along the way. You knew there might be challenges along the way, but you were so confident in the love you share that you knew it would survive anything.

You didn’t come here to suffer – the world is full of enough suffering, and that’s because of the web of old collective energy and lower ego consciousness.

In fact, Twins are here to be an antidote to the human suffering that already exists, to help move AWAY from that and back to love.

“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”
Oliver Goldsmith

At the core of the Twin Flame connection, there is love. The Drama is the illusion. That’s just what the Ego sees. Conflict is part of the old 3D illusion.


It’s easy to feel that we have no control over this journey and that things are slipping out of our hands when pain or negativity arises. The truth is that we as souls have more power in this than we might realize.

And once we align with our inner power instead of dwelling in feelings of victimhood, taking action to clear the hurt and uplifting ourselves, our energy field changes and we begin to open up our journey in a completely different way.

Don’t let the 3D Twin Flame stories of illusion (no matter how well intended and well described) dictate your journey – go deeper. Listen to your soul’s wisdom and that which stirs it, resonates with it, ignites it. It will never steer you wrong.

So what’s the next step on your path?

Feel inside, let your soul show you. You’ll recognize it by the feelings of lightness, love, joy, inspiration.

As always, I’m sending you love and light for your continued journey! <3

Cassady x

Want more? For an easy, fun way to manage your mindset, elevate your vibration and harmonize your journey with your Twin, have a look at the Vibrational Alignment Program for Twin Flames here.

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Alternatively you can try our Free starter kit

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This is why visiting some sites leaves you feeling drained or even nauseous. It’s really important to me that this blog is a pure source of actionable, positive information and help so you feel good here, and are inspired and assisted on your journey. Thanks for understanding! <3

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  1. Thank you Cassady & Guides. You knew what I needed right now. I’m taking this with me everywhere today.

  2. Thank you Cassady..this was meant for me!!..I sometimes feel i need to keep reading things over & over again so it will all sink in.I have known my twin flame for 30 years but its only in the last year that i have started to wake up & realise i need to dig deeper.Reading this is so uplifting, & all the way through i could just feel my twin flames overwhelming love for me..thank you

  3. Thank you so much for your beautiful messages, Cassidy! I have been calling on my twin’s higher self recently & have definitely received responses through the most beautiful love songs & just a feeling of closeness. It touches my heart & helps ease some of the longing. I also appreciate the quotes you insert in your blog. Just beautiful! Thanks again!

  4. Thank you for your kind words Kathleen! I’m so glad you’ve already been calling on your twin’s higher self and experiencing the joy of this special part of the connection 🙂 Enjoy! <3 Sending you love and light xxx

  5. Thank you, thank you, thank you! Thank you to my most High Army of Masters and Guides for channeling this message through you! EVERY single point you touched on here resonated deeply with specific issues, topics and concerns I experienced throughout today!!! All after I awoke today determined to hear any and all messages that were meant for me. I meditated much of the day, spent most time outdoors simply breathing in anything my “Army” and my Twin’s higher self would so graciously tell me to get me through this time of “runner separation” that I have been struggling with!!! So often I feel I am “open” and I ask for guidance and my 3d self sabotages all the signs I do receive by telling myself that I “imagined” all of it. I literally felt my twin reach out to me today in my heart chakra, the feeling was overwhelming and grand!! I instantly began to deny it as imagination or wishful thinking. You, Cassady, have put each and every doubt or belief into exact and precise perspective for me!!! I meditated before clicking on the link that brought me here, based on the title, and begged my guides and twin to help me find a message here within your words, that would help me go to sleep with something concrete that would inspire hope, and HERE YOU ARE!!! Not with just a few words of confirmation, but an ENTIRE page of pure, real “we’re talking to you, Maria” conversation with the spirit world!!! I’m amazed and in awe and feeling profound gratitude at this moment…. took my breath away!! xoxo

  6. Thank you Cassady. The pain of our separation is too much. I’m going to write to my Twin’s Higher Self & see what happens. I have done so much inner work on myself since we have connected last year & now to go thru this…
    I know we will get to union. I love & miss my Twin so much if does physically hurt many times. My Angels are my guides & I pray & meditate to & with them every day. Thank you again Cassady for all your insight.

  7. How do you get through the intense pain of wanting to be with your flame? I’m the chaser and everyday for two years I’ve been in so much pain wanting?

  8. Cass, thank you and guides sooooo much. I’ve been reading your blog for months but I had to comment to express my gratitude. My twin soul stopped talking to me out of no where, I hadn’t heard from him in a month. I was starting to get worried because I didn’t want to fall into that runner/chaser dynamic.

    I write the note mentioned above to his higher self. I read it out loud, stuck it inside my pillow. I took a brief nap upon awakening he reached out to me, thirty minutes later. I’m so overjoyed I literally have tears in my eyes. Thanks again for your light work <3!

  9. My twin and I were involved before she ran. She told me for months she didn’t want a relationship and then before I knew it she was engaged. What helped me was taking a step back and trying to think what benefit the person she is with now is having for her and her journey. My twin is an Iraq War veteran and when we were together had not started dealing with her baggage. The man she is with now is also a vet; so for me it made it easier to think “Maybe at this point in her journey she needs someone (like a soulmate) to help guide her through this baggage. I know I can’t do that for her.” It is difficult and I know it hurts. But it helps to think in these terms I think.

  10. I just wanted to thank you for this. Today I had a rough day that started with a nightmare regarding my twin… Then through the day I received a lot of mixed signals (even from him) and reading this… It resonated with me so hard it scared me. My twin and I are in separation right now, he cut all contact with me (except my best friend, she the only person that somehow keeps us together right now) and he’s dating someone else. He sometimes comes to my dreams and stay silent, he just look at me and says nothing but he seems sorry everytime. I was feeling very low today but I came across this post and it made me cry. I actually felt it made sense and kinda felt my twin through some of the things you wrote. Again, thank you. Thank you.

  11. Thank you so much 🙂 My TF sees that he is in a karmic relationship with his now wife and is aware that he and I belong together. We recently just had a physical encounter together while I was visiting him. We both realize and acknowledge that we are committed to each other no matter what. 🙂 Just waiting patiently for Divine Timing. We are so looking forward to our complete union together 🙂

  12. I would be curious to know the answer too, and how you proceeded if you don’t mind sharing. Thank you!

    Elizabeth xo

  13. I try to use the tools often. Twice I have used the energy clearing tools and my twin contacted me directly the very next day. I use positive affirmations of what I would like in my relationship also. My twin lives far away and sometimes we don’t talk for weeks but things are really great between us now. He states how much he loves me and how I am always in his thoughts. I’m really glad I found this site.

  14. I really love your articles but i do have one question… before we incarnate, we as souls weren’t we perfect? why the journey on earth is essential?

  15. Thank you for keeping it real and having truly helpful intentions! I trust you above anyone else out there writing about twins. I find it ironic how so much of the twin flame writing out there is about 5d things, but the writing and the perspective itself is so 3d. I can feel that you are a true channel for spirit 🙂

  16. Thank you so much for this Cassady… have helped me understand and apply love always……

  17. Hello Thanks a lot for this article I m going to request higher self of my twin flame as u mentioned , the sense of familiarity n electric love is parallel to none need ur guidance through out as I m in a lot of suffering currently

  18. I have been through hell and back, going through the dark night of the soul. Feel blessed as I feel the Universe’s support, however it is still painful and we need to do the work required (in my case enlightened and pushed to the limit). I have received clear signs (from him, coming in my dream and introducing himself)…then all hell broke loose. My guardians also spoke (happened before, so it is known to me, i trust this source) about him, however my mind is still battling the notion….Thank you for your articles. I do read them regularly!

  19. Can we align with our twin and come in union once one twin passes and the other is still here on earth. My twin passed 6 months ago. We were married but there were alot of up and downs up until a month before he passed

  20. I call my twin flames and I know he’s being heard through this frequency. Thanks Cassady for the blog, lots of light and love to follow you to a new blog. With pleasure. Kirks

  21. is it possible to have more than one “twin flame”? i know by definition twin implies 2, but I am curious if such a thing is possible.
    Along the same line, how can one tell the difference between a “soul mate” and “twin flame”, and can either or both be non-“romantic”?

    A question about “guides”:
    I have had regular dialogue with an inner voice since I was in my teens. I always considered this to be “God”. Is this the same thing as “guides”? Could it be my higher self? Spirit/God? How does one know the difference and does it even matter?

    This “voice” doesn’t typically tell me what decisions to make, or give me specific
    “answers”. But it does give me insight into my emotions and behavior, as well as that of others, which helps me keep in mind a bigger picture. It’s never confusing—it always is accurate and makes perfect sense.
    So just wondering how to differentiate between all the different things: guides, intuition, higher self, Spirit, etc.
    Thanks also Cassady for your regular articles. So many resonate with lessons I’m learning about self-love alongside unconditional love.

  22. You made me a believer….i truly believe i did not land on this blog for no reason. This is really helping me open my heart and my ears to what my twin flame has been telling me all this time but was too deaf to listen.
    He may be on the run yes, but a small blessing is he still talks to me on messenger. And all your articles about what his higher self is telling me, he has told me also in this 3d world…and its the same up to today:
    “My love for you is just there…”
    “Find your passion, go back to the things you love doing”
    “I cannot give you a timeframe…i dont know that…lets just take things in the now, live the moment”
    All these and many more similar messages that you havd already discussed in your other articles…it just hits home so hard…
    My ego refused to listen … Even got angry for him saying such things….but now i am slowly waking to the truth that he may not be with me physically, his earthly being may have hurt me…but his love is just there…lingering with my soul….i believe that now.

  23. Thank you so Much Cassady… I met my twin when I was 14 and am now 60 it has been a 45 year relationship but was only told by spirit late last year (2021) after we reconnected after having had 12 year relationship and had broken up for 3 year, that he is my Twin flame It all makes so much sense ..the magnetism has always drawn us back together.. but he has pulled away to heal …oh boy its bought some some stuff up for me Thank you for the hint on writing to him and asking him to journey with me in joy and love and expressing my concerns …Much love and gratitude

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