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Did You Know Forgiveness Has the Power to Transform Your Journey for Good? Hang on, I Know You Want To Scroll Away – But You’ll Thank Yourself Later if you Stay and Read… Promise (I’ve Been There Too).


Forgiveness is possibly the deepest, simplest yet most irritating issue on the spiritual path. Yes, I said it. It can be really annoying. Especially when you’re feeling upset and all you hear around you is “Let go”, “You have to forgive”, “Release it” – when you can’t stop feeling the pain.

The problem is that when you’re in a good place, forgiveness is easy. Almost too easy. When you’re in a bad place, though, it’s the furthest from your mind… In fact, when things are tough with your Twin Flame it can feel impossible.

When Forgiveness Feels Like A Joke

Ascension is the process of releasing old negativity so we can rise up into a higher vibration of love, to be open to the union of souls that Twin Flames have set out for life on earth. This process involves all the old junk we’ve experienced and even have inherited genetically, coming up for resolution.

This release of old hurts can make it feel like the Twin Flame journey is nothing but struggle, because you often end up feeling all of it again as it comes up. And at that point, the idea of forgiveness can feel like a joke.

I’ve been there – more times than I’d like to admit…

Shifting Out Of Struggle

Unfortunately, when we’re in that place of negativity, we’re only attracting more of the same. We’re unwittingly sending out the signal of struggle, disappointment and negativity to the universe  – and accordingly, it matches us up with more of the same.

Although it’s probably the last thing most of us would like to do in moments of setbacks, pain, disappointment – forgiveness can actually shift all that. It helps us let go of what’s keeping us attracting more and more negativity, so we can shift into a better future.

When The Hurt Has Nothing To Do With Your Twin

One of the biggest realizations I had in moments like this on my own journey, was that the pain and the hurt and the frustrations often came from somewhere completely not related to my Twin Flame. It was simply old negativity coming up to be cleared so I could raise my vibration and be open to unconditional love.

My soul would show it up for me in dreams and visions so I understood: childhood friends I’d felt betrayed by, feeling unloved by a parent who had their own emotional issues, feeling rejected by the opposite sex…

And in these old hurts coming to the surface, I attributed them all to my Twin Flame. He became the canvas I projected all my old baggage onto – and it obscured the love that was there. It disrupted our whole connection time and time again.

This is what happens to so many Twin Flames – old hurt coming up and becoming attributed to the relationship when it’s actually from somewhere else. Forgiveness is a great way to release this so you can move into a happier place on your journey.

The Twin Flame Miracle Worker

The Ascension (cleansing and uplifting) process all Twin Flames go through can be painful and cause so much struggle, but once we have tools to deal with it, we can make it swifter, easier, cut out all the triggering, separation, running and begin to lift into love right now.

Forgiveness coupled with energy management can be an amazing way to do this. And often it’s all about the angle we approach Forgiveness from – this is why I wanted to make an infographic this week.

I created the Free Help Kit for Twin Flames to help as many Twins as possible to clear and erase this old hurt and “baggage” to make the journey one of love instead of struggle. Go here to download.

The energy tools I share in the Free Kit and the Vibrational Alignment Program are the most effective and deep working methods I discovered and developed on this journey. They were how my Twin and I reached Union within just 18 months of our first encounter. (To read about other Twins’ amazing experiences with energy clearing, have a look here.)

Forgiveness coupled with energy management can really be a “miracle worker”. If we don’t forgive, we unconsciously hold onto the hurt in our space and attract more of the same. Forgiveness helps us shift into a new energy space. 

To forgive is something that can truly transform our lives, but it’s often a misunderstood concept in our Western culture so this week I wanted to make a clear infographic that can hopefully inspire you even if things are feeling like a struggle right now…

As always, I’m sending you love and light for your continued journey!
I believe in you! <3

Cassady x




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  1. Hi Cassady,
    I find that the hardest part sometimes it’s to forgive myself rather than others or my twinflame. And i am working on that and slowly getting gentle with myself and accepting who i am flaws and all. It’s not easy but i am getting there. I wanted to ask you something. I have been seeing 111 and 1111 in real life but a lot in my dreams too. Do they have the same meaning? Also when I wake up I often feel the presence of my twin inside me. Is it possible to have had a dream or having spent time together in the astral space and not being conscious of it? Sometimes i wake up and it feels so good to have this sensation. I feel full in a way.
    Thank you for your answer. Xxxxx

  2. Thank you so much, the way you talk about this is sooo much different and understanding than the usual “let it go” preach! You’ve pinned an excellent point about frustrations from things not at all related to our Twin. A few nights ago I dreamed of a guy I knew long ago that hurt me a lot in the past. While waking up I wondered why I dreamed of this forgotten jerk, (totally different from my Twin, runner but not jerk at all), you’ve served me the answer on a silver plate!
    What about self-forgiving? Because I find it really harder in fact to apply it to myself…

  3. Hi Cassady, thank you for this wonderful post. I have a question, if one is already in a loving soulmate relationship and would never leave them…what would be the purpose in finding your twin flame if your already committed in a loving relationship? It seems in some ways like a curse…I met my twin flame through my soulmate and I haven’t been able to figure this out. Would love to hear your thoughts 🙂 Sending love and light to you <3

  4. Hi Annie,

    The Ho’oponopono prayer is very helpful for self forgiveness too, try it and feel your energy shifting. Intend that you’re saying it to yourself : ) It can help to visualize yourself “outside of yourself” apologizing/forgiving yourself. This perspective can be incredibly eye opening. Because we’re on the inside looking at ourselves through mirrors and society, we often have a very warped perspective – visualizing being outside looking at ourselves can be very healing.

    The numbers you’re seeing have the same meaning in dreams as in life – have a search on the blog here, there’s an article about the significance of 11:11. And yes, many Twins have experiences in the astral realms but don’t remember it upon waking – this is very common. Enjoy the feeling! <3 xx

    Sending you love and light x

  5. Thank you Seraph! I’m so glad you see it this way too, it can be tricky to deal with the whole forgiveness thing from the usual perspective. Try the prayer in the image for self forgiveness also, and like I mentioned in the comment above it can really help for shifting our perspective – to see ourselves from the outside in <3

    Sending you love and light xx

  6. Hi Samantha,

    Thanks for your interesting question and your kind words! Well, everyone’s journey is different – always follow what feels like the best fit for you. It’s likely that this situation you’re in is what’s “right” for you and your Twin, to be “together” without being romantically tied in life. To experience the unconditional love of soul and heart without this being romantically connected… It’s certainly something our society could use learning about…

    Feel inside and see if that resonates : )Our souls always have a plan for life, and it could very well be that you and your Twin plan to unite in energy and assist in bridging in high dimensional templates without ever having to be in a relationship here.

    Sending you love and light <3 xx

  7. Dear Cassady as always thank you very much for your very practical and insightful, realistic approach to such matters :-). I always love to read what you write as it feels so very authentic and positive.
    I have a technical questions here : you speak about an infographic in this article and I couldn’t find it. May it be because I’m using my cell phone (android) to access your article? Or I misunderstood something?? I would like very much to know if I am indeed missing something here because yes forgiveness is very important and at times it’s also very tricky to get there 🙂

  8. What I’ve found to be the hardest to swallow is that I chose someone else over myself. Loving people subtly is nice, but it’s not nice when u don love urself. We have ourselves and God. Everything else dissipates. Cherish yourself and be a good example for others including this special person who we are begging to love themselves. What’s sad is wen we beg them to love themselves were also begging ourselves to love ourselves. When we love ourselves we find peace. And within peace there’s truth. With truth there’s peace. And with peace there’s acceptance.

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